Inspiration vs. Idolization
Be the star of your own story
By: Ayla Khosroshahi, MA, ACC
A new year brings new hopes and dreams.
The journaling (re)starts,
the vision boards are (re)designed,
we sign up for all the conferences and courses,
and we are ready to manifest the sh!t out of the year.
Somewhere in there we start focusing on all the things we want.
Some of us might start dreaming of a life we think we need.
And suddenly we start putting people on pedestals and wanting their lives.
Now, there is nothing wrong with inspiration.
Having a mentor to look up to,
someone who encourages you to push past your comfort zone,
but once we start idolizing someone else we can get into trouble.
Regardless if it’s Beyonce, your parents, a mentor, your business coach, or me for that matter. If you start a thought or sentence with, “I want so-in-so’s” … (life, money, career, relationship, look, voice, body, or whatever) then we need to talk!
Whomever you are idolizing, remember this: It’s not YOU.
That means you are still seeing the power, growth, strength, and possibility outside of yourself.
Again, I’m not saying don’t be inspired, don’t dream, don’t stretch outside your comfort zone — on the contrary, please do ALL of that.
But catch yourself in the semantics:
– How are you talking to yourself?
– How are you talking about this other person?
– How are you setting this comparison up?
– Why is their value more than your value?
– Does your mindset need a reframe?
Reframe: The MINDSHIFT Way
Inspiration vs. Idolization
Pick a person that you are inspired by.
Then, ask yourself:
- WHAT inspires you about them? Break it down. What is it that makes you want to “be” them?
- WHY does this inspire you? Go deep. What is motivating your desires?
- WHERE do you already display these values?
- WHEN have you shown these qualities?
- HOW have you shown up as this version of yourself?
- Now go through the list and CHALLENGE YOURSELF, how can you embody these qualities even more? Where can you create change in your thoughts and behaviours bring this inspiration to life?
Switch the narrative. Find ways in which you can inspire yourself. Take an inventory of all the things you already are, have done, are doing… and then find ways to stretch and uplevel.
Because as long as inspiration comes from the outside, you are not sitting in your power, and you are not leading as Your Best Leader.
Because if you are trying to fit into someone else’s box, you are not giving yourself the space, opportunity and encouragement to create as your whole self.
So, kick that pedestal down, leaders, and inspire yourself!
Learn to lead yourself by being curious, activated, empowered, and aligned with your values to be the star of your own story.
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