Simple Questions for Big Results
How to MINDSHIFT
By: Ayla Khosroshahi, MA, ACC
To MINDSHIFT is to trigger a cognitive reframe so that you can see a situation in a new light, gain new perspective and make better choices. A MINDSHIFT is an essential component to performing at your best. As brain-based executive coaches we spend a lot of time asking MINDSHIFT questions. Whether we are coaching one-on-one, training teams, or running workshops, the essential ingredient is to ask our clients thought-provoking questions. Our goal is to help them spark insight from their own wealth of knowledge, make empowered decisions, and evoke their best selves.
When we are at a road block, in a conflict situation, or deeply confused as to what to do, it is rare that we actually don’t have the answer. It’s more likely that there is a lot of mental fog decreasing the signal to noise ratio. Our old thoughts and narratives have a gravitational pull that fills the brain with perspectives that don’t have the ability to solve the current challenge. Our job is to clear the noise. As Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
Next time you have a question, big or small. Try this.
First. Take three deep breaths. This allows you to reset.
Then, ask yourself these three questions.
- What is your end goal?
Regardless of who is right or wrong, all the fine details, what do you actually want at the end. What is your ideal end result? What is your goal? Why?
- A year from now how would you have wanted to act?
When you look back on this situation, what would you have wished you had done? How would have wished you had acted? Why?
- What would Your Best Self do?
Who is the best version of you, and how would that person act? Why?
It’s natural to feel lost, frustrated, or confused. But we are also wise, generous, and strong. We can decide how we show up and act. How we respond to the challenge ahead. Ultimately the answers are inside us. Deep down we know what best represents our truest wishes, our truest selves. Sometimes we just need some help to unveil that truth that best serves our impact. Next time you are stuck, try these three MINDSHIFT questions above to help you do better by thinking better.